There are those leaders who speak and people assume absolute authority. They resonate; they hold attention and they get listened to. An authentic, strong, resonant and powerful voice is possible in everyone. You must get yourself heard. If it is critical that you get your message out to the world, your voice is a powerful means to do that.
As a coach of leaders, I help my clients find their authentic voice. How did I get connected to my own voice to be able to help others?
Early on in my career I lost my voice and the cause wasn’t structural. Was it from my “exquisite” cover up? In the name of being nice? Polite? To not hurt feelings? To signal “I am not a threat to you”?
My voice retracted, my tongue is drawn tightly back into my throat and TMJ seizes my jaw. I was so intent to be good, to get it right, to find approval, to gain attention that I lose all spontaneity. A preeminent voice doctor recommends me to voice training. I studied with world renowned voice teachers.
From this very physical training, I remove tension. I learn to breathe. In therapy, I release me from having to be perfect. Did I come by this honestly? Yes.
“Stay still and shut up!” When I was born, my mom, the daughter of a doctor, had her physician father in the delivery room with her. He yelled, “Don’t you dare make a peep. Not one sound. Do you hear?! Do not humiliate me in front of my colleagues.”
I’m birthed by a woman who held onto her voice while giving birth to me. That’s the beginning of my life having to have to find my voice. And now I help others find theirs.
I must have been royally pissed off hearing (in utero) my pompous grandfather say that. Boy, did I fix them! In my joy and exuberance, I spent my childhood vocalizing. Shouting. Singing. Raucous laughter. Big Noise is what my grandfather called me.
“Don’t you know children are to be seen, NOT heard?” “Don’t talk in school.” “Don’t talk in church.” I become conditioned to hold my voice back and now with a total loss of it, I must work to recover my full and authentic voice.
Today, I combine my corporate leadership experience and extensive performance training to offer leadership communication coaching using body, language and mood. When my clients find their authentic voice, full presence, free expression and spontaneity, they are in great presence, comfort and ease. A connection happens with their teams to help them live to their true potential – being self-generating, self-cultivating and self-empowering.
We more easily get to our business goals when we convey trust, credibility, and confidence and with great conviction. The use of an authentic, clear, and strong voice will have you communicate intention powerfully and persuasively.
When you become inaudible, you render everyone around you inaudible.
For a powerful, clear and natural voice, you must remove tension.
To remove tension is to have a relaxed body particularly your neck, chest, jaw, face, throat, shoulders, tongue and forehead. This is done by using your breath.
Get yourself heard at the back of the room. Learn to project your voice through greater resonance.
Contact me to begin your Vocal Presence journey.